Core Questions

1) What makes a place feel like home to you?

Being surrounded by people who know your history and still choose you. Feeling unburdened—able to exist without constantly managing expectations. Knowing you’ve built or protected something that will last. Feeling recognized for who you are becoming, not just who you’ve been.

2) When something important goes wrong, what do you tend to do first?

Move quickly to regain direction or control. Pull back to gain perspective before reacting. Focus on what can still be held together or stabilized. Pay attention to how everyone involved is affected.

3) Which situation is hardest for you to sit with?

Feeling disconnected from people you care about. Feeling like the ground beneath you is shifting too fast. Feeling boxed in by expectations or routines that no longer fit. Feeling unable to act when something clearly needs to change.

4) A piece of advice that tends to stay with you is closest to which idea?

Decide who you are, or someone else will decide for you. Everything has a rhythm—listen before you move. Not every burden is yours to carry. Know what you stand for, so you’re not moved by every force.

5) When you don’t know how something will turn out, how do you usually decide what to do?

I hold steady unless there’s a strong reason to move. I choose a direction and commit, even if it’s imperfect. I wait until I feel clarity or distance from the situation. I respond when the moment feels right, not rushed.

6) When you’re overwhelmed, what actually helps the most?

Talking things through with someone I trust. Taking decisive action to break the feeling of stagnation. Working on something tangible I can complete. Space—mental or physical—to breathe and reset.

7) Which statement about responsibility resonates most?

Responsibility means owning the consequences of my choices. I’m responsible for my actions, not for controlling outcomes. Responsibility means following through on what I commit to. Responsibility means showing up for others when it matters.

8) What do you believe gives someone real strength?

Knowing what you want and having the courage to pursue it. Acting without being ruled by fear or ego. Understanding others well enough to move with them. Enduring—staying present when things are difficult.

9) What have you struggled most with in accepting about yourself?

That I can’t always stay detached or unaffected. That I’m often harder on myself than anyone else is. That my emotions can be intense or complicated. That I resist change even when it’s necessary.

10) If everything familiar fell away, what part of yourself would you trust to remain?

My values and sense of what’s solid. My ability to adapt and let go. My drive to choose who I become. My capacity to care and stay connected.

11) What most reliably helps you feel real and present in your own life?

A clear direction I can move toward, even if it’s small. Something steady I can return to—place, practice, or promise. A moment of quiet perspective where everything feels lighter. A sense of closeness—being understood without needing to explain everything.

12) When everything feels uncertain, what do you instinctively look for first?

The part of the situation that won’t change quickly. The people involved—what they’re feeling and what they need. A way to reduce pressure—less weight, fewer demands, more room. The most direct lever I can pull to influence what happens next.

13) “Standing your ground” means what to you, most of the time?

Staying aligned with what feels right, even if it costs me something. Not letting fear make my choices for me. Choosing not to escalate—keeping the situation from getting worse. Holding the relationship steady while the conflict moves through it.

14) Over time, what makes you trust someone most?

They show up consistently and do what they say they’ll do. They’re emotionally honest, even when it’s uncomfortable. They respect boundaries and don’t demand more than is fair. They take ownership and don’t dodge hard decisions.

15) When you’re forced to move before you’re ready, what tends to happen inside you?

I speed up and try to take control of the direction, fast. I feel unsettled—like I can’t get my footing. I detach a bit so I don’t get dragged into the chaos. I get hyper-aware of everyone’s reactions and try to adapt around them.

16) What role does routine play in your life?

It’s structure that keeps me steady; without it I feel off. It helps, but I need flexibility or I feel trapped. It matters most when it supports the people around me. I use it when it serves my goals; otherwise it slows me down.

17) What makes something feel “true” to you?

It holds up under pressure and stays consistent over time. It matches lived emotional reality, even if it’s messy. It creates clarity and reduces unnecessary suffering. It aligns with what I choose to stand for and become.

18) When you commit to something, what does that commitment mean?

I’ll see it through—even when the motivation fades. I’ll adjust as needed, but I won’t abandon what matters. I’ll keep it only if it stays aligned with what’s right for me. I’ll own it fully and make it real through action.

19) What kind of environment helps you thrive long-term?

One with clear expectations and dependable rhythms. One where I can breathe—low pressure, room to change course. One where connection is normal and support is mutual. One that rewards initiative and lets me shape outcomes.

20) Which feels most like your “core self,” even if life changes?

I’m someone who stays—who holds what matters when things get hard. I’m someone who becomes—who can remake myself when I need to. I’m someone who adapts—who can loosen my grip and keep moving. I’m someone who connects—who keeps people in mind and doesn’t forget them.

Under Stress (Tie-Breaker Only)

These only affect your result if your Core score is tied.

S1) Under stress, you’re most likely to…

Clamp down on routines and rules to regain stability. Absorb everything quietly, then process it with someone safe. Create distance—less input, fewer demands, more breathing room. Push hard to fix it now, even if it comes out sharp.

S2) If you feel cornered, what’s the most likely “unhealthy” move?

Disappear mentally or physically—“I can’t deal with this.” Get cutting or self-critical—trying to burn your way into control. Take on too much emotionally and spiral in it. Refuse to budge—dig in even when it’s hurting everyone.

S3) Under stress, what do you secretly wish someone would do for you?

Stay close, understand, and help you carry it. Give you space and permission to let it go. Make things feel stable again—practically, concretely. Look you in the eye and remind you who you are—then back you.